Dating My Husband
I will never forget my pastor teaching on marriage one Sunday morning. He began to tell how he and his wife met, how they fell in love, and eventually married. He talked about the 50+ years they have spent together. He said that he loves his wife better every day, and that is how marriage should be. But the thing that stuck out the most was when he said this: “Husbands, just because you married her, it doesn’t mean you stop dating her.”
Why do you need dates in your marriage?
He told us about the dates that they still go on after so many years together. They make time for each other. That is so important. We live in a “connected” generation. Except, we tend to be connected to everyone, but our spouse. Our husbands come in from work and plop down in front of the TV…. Or you both sit there quietly on your phones saying nothing to one another. You can go days with barely a word spoken. We need to disconnect and reconnect … reconnect with our spouse. Make time for each other. We need to date our husbands.
How we make time for dating
I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years. We have had 4 kids. We had our first child 6 months after our wedding, so we have always had to be creative when it comes to finding time for each other. We rarely have a one on one date outside of our home, but when we do we disconnect. We have a no phones rule. No phone calls, no facebook, no texts, no phones period.
We recently went to a restaurant where there was another couple across the room on a date. They were both so sucked into their phones the whole time… I don’t think they ever looked at each other. It was sad to watch. Communication is so important in marriage.
Water your grass
So as I grow old with my husband, I want to make sure we never quit dating one another. I want to make sure we never quit trying to win each other’s affection. I heard someone say once, “If the grass is greener on the other side, you should water your own.”
I never want to forget to water my grass.